- Are you finding child rearing more challenging than you expected?
- Are you having problems with boundaries, rules and structure with your children or teens?
- Are your children having problems with anxiety, depression, trauma, attachment or separation issues, or problems in school?
Most parents in today’s fast moving world find it challenging to be consistent with the difficult aspects of parenting. You may feel isolated, like you’re not doing enough. You may even fear you are a bad parent.
But you’re not alone. It’s challenging to raise kids.
I love working with parents and kids. You may find that my ability to offer creative, and simple solutions to help you create more peace and connection at home. People have told me that I am kind, empathic, compassionate, open-minded, straight forward, and have a good sense of humor
I love showing parents how to deal with disruptive behaviors both at home and in school. Whata relief you feel when you see your child feel less anxiety, less depression, and you start to see the signs of cooperation and pleasure. I get a lot of pleasure from helping to create these kinds of positive changes.
You may feel hesitant to get support.
Most people feel ashamed or embarrassed, thinking they should be super parents. You may fear that you’re missing the parenting gene on those tough days, when nothing seems to go right! It’s confusing to feel so angry and frustrated when you really love your kids.
You may feel like you’ve really failed if you need to get support!
It may be easier than you think, getting positive support and encouragement.
You’ll find that you quickly feel at ease as we get to work, and create more ease and peace at home.
- In our sessions together, you will start to feel empowered when you realize that that you have always had the power within yourself to make the positive changes.
- You’ll learn how to identify negative thought patterns “starve them out” by focusing on positive thoughts and behaviors. You’ll be surprised and delighted when you start noticing a dramatic reduction in your child or teens anxiety, depression and negative behaviors, both at home and school.
Amber Specializes In:
- Child & Teen Therapy
- Play Therapy
- Anxiety and Depression
- Transition Stress
- Loss and Grief
- 13 years of experience working with Latino immigrants
My 13 years of experience helps me understand and how to work with 100s of different patterns and challenges. We will use methods that work for you, not a cookie cutter approach to parenting.
My training in PCIT (Parent Child Interaction Therapy), CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), and TFCBT (Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) will give you research based tools that really work. You will have a foundation of practical, tested method that anyone can use.
What my client have told me about their experiences in therapy with me.
“I have learned how to communicate and increase the bond with my child, resulting in a drastic decrease in my child’s behavior difficulties.”
“Parenting is one of the most challenging of life’s experiences. PCIT has helped me understand the emotional needs of my child, which in turn has helped my child overcome her anxiety.”
“I was consumed by the events of my past, but after coming to therapy, I was able to accept and release the fear and shame that was overwhelming me.”
How long does therapy take?
Yes, everyone is different! The parents that I have worked with report that they have
- Created better relationships with their children that has
- They have been able to reduce or eliminate their child’s anxiety that caused the disruptive behaviors at home and at school with the skills that they have learned in PCIT.
- Teen clients report that they understand how to communicate their needs to the adults in their life that helps them feel more safe and secure.
Resources I love to share.
- You’ll receive lots PCIT handouts
- Home “fun” worksheets to track your results,
- Support to practice your new skills between sessions with their child.
How long will therapy take?
If we are working with PCIT (Parent Child Interaction Therapy),, you will start to see results right away, and will be able to finish in 3 to 4 months.
I have two children. Can you do PCIT (Parent Child Interaction Therapy), with more than one child at a time?
I recommend that the child with the most severe behavior difficulties start PCIT, after an initial assessment to determine if PCIT would be appropriate. It’s best to start with the parent who is most challenged to get the fastest results.
What if after the initial assessment it is determined that PCIT (Parent Child Interaction Therapy), is not the appropriate treatment for my child’s needs/symptoms?
During the first few sessions, we will do a thorough assessment to understand the connection between challenging behaviors and emotions. We may use Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral (TFCBT), which could help your child reduce the symptoms of Acute Stress Disorder or PTSD, after a shock, or difficult medical procedure, or a family challenge.
Do parents need to participate in their child’s therapy treatment?
The younger the child the more vital it is that you take an active role in therapy. Children need your support to feel secure and safe. As you learn to introduce gentle new ways of interacting with your child the more you all will see and feel the results.
Can you give some examples of how this works? What it looks like?
PCIT (Parent Child Interaction Therapy). I worked with a 6-year-old boy who was adopted from an abusive and neglectful home. His adopted parents started PCIT because their new son’s severe behavior problems made adjusting to his new home difficult. Both parents participated in PCIT their son weekly. They practiced the skills at home every day, and as their son’s anxiety and stress levels started to improve, so did his behaviors at home and school.
Play therapy. Working with a 3-year-old boy who was having problems after being removed from his biological parents. He was struggling with severe tantrums, anger, mood swings, and aggression. Using play therapy, we were able able to process his emotions each week through the play. After consistent support, his aggressive behaviors decreased, his moods stabilized, and he was able to bond with his new family and feel safe for the first time in his life.
Support and training group. We offer a workshop for parents wanting to learn and practice PCIT, play therapy in helping their children express challenging emotions. If your child is struggling with difficult behaviors, it usually means they are struggling with difficult emotions on the inside. Play therapy, whether it’s used in PCIT or in a traditional therapy setting, is the most effective tool to assist your child in managing their emotions more effectively. For more details see our Website.
What are some examples of how PCIT and Play Therapy work?
|Problem||Benefit/Solution||How it Works|
|Challenges following the rules||Increase praise||Increases bond|
|Tantrums||Ignore, remain calm.||Demonstrates emotional regulation|
|Anxiety and Fear||Increase mindfulness.||Keeps focus on present moment|
|Depression.||Increase mindfulness.||Keeps focus on present moment|
My best piece of advice.
Consistency is key! The best way to create a happier, more peaceful relationship with your child is to be consistent and positive until these become a simple habit. Then your child will feel safe and secure.